cracked bowl on the shelf
once held storms, now gathers dust—
still, it has its place
One night I found myself in the kitchen at 2:37 a.m., barefoot, eating cereal straight from the box.
No bowl. No milk. Just the dim fridge light and the sound of my own chewing,
like static in the silence.
It wasn’t hunger.
It was something else.
Something softer, harder to name.
Like loneliness wearing socks.
For years, I called this a bad habit.
Evidence of failure, of being undisciplined, of living wrong.
But now I wonder—
what if the habits we hate aren’t flaws,
but signals?
Morse code from the parts of ourselves we’ve forgotten how to hear.
Mindless snacking?
Maybe it was never about food.
Maybe it was my body asking for rest,
a pause I didn’t think I deserved.
Scrolling at 2 a.m.?
Not procrastination—
a quiet rebellion,
my attempt to reclaim time that didn’t feel like mine.
Overplanning?
Not a love of structure,
but a way to build fences around chaos
so I didn’t drown in it.
I started tracing my bad habits like constellations.
Procrastination wasn’t laziness.
It was fear in slow motion.
People-pleasing wasn’t kindness.
It was safety in disguise.
Perfectionism wasn’t ambition.
It was a shield I built as a kid and forgot how to put down.
These weren’t character flaws.
They were survival tools.
Crude. Unrefined.
But brilliant in their own time.
They got me through the noise.
They carried me here.
There’s a wabi-sabi truth in that—
a quiet kind of reverence for things imperfect,
worn, misfitted, and still somehow whole.
Like a cracked teacup that still holds warmth.
Like an old habit that once held your fear
so you wouldn’t have to.
Wabi-sabi doesn’t ask for perfection.
It asks for intimacy with the broken.
It teaches that beauty and usefulness
can still live in things that no longer serve their original purpose.
So now, instead of fighting my habits,
I study them.
What are you trying to protect me from?
What wound are you still guarding?
What need did you once meet so well, and why haven’t I said thank you?
Because maybe healing doesn’t come through discipline.
Maybe it comes through curiosity.
Through compassion.
Maybe our so-called bad habits
are just love letters
from who we used to be—
written in smoke and repetition,
asking not to be erased,
but understood.
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