folded sheets whisper
a morning breath of order
the day aligns slow
There’s a room I used to rent in Basel, a small corner apartment above a bakery. The smell of bread rose through the windows every morning, and if you opened them wide enough, it was like waking inside an oven. The walls were damp in winter, the ceiling cracked, and the radiator only worked when it felt like it. But I remember that room clearly because of one thing: I began making my bed every morning.
It sounds like nothing, but at the time it was everything. The bed was a simple futon mattress on a wooden frame, the kind you could carry alone if you balanced it right. I’d fold the blanket neatly, smooth the pillow, tuck the corners in so it looked almost military. It wasn’t about neatness. It was about momentum. Before breakfast, before work, before I faced anyone else, I had already done something with order.
Some days that was the only order I made. The world outside remained as chaotic as ever: missed trams, long lines at the post office, lectures that stretched too long. But that small act meant I had already won once. I could come home tired, defeated, and the bed would still be waiting, tidy, as if to remind me: you managed at least this.
Years later, in Tokyo, I met a man who taught me the second habit — not directly, but by how he lived. His name was Sakamoto, though everyone just called him “Saka.” He ran a second-hand jazz bar in Nishi-Ogikubo, where the walls were lined with records stacked so precariously you felt one wrong move might bring them down. I went there often during a humid summer, mostly to sit in the cool dark with a drink in my hand.
One evening, when the cicadas outside were shrieking loud enough to cut through Coltrane’s sax, I asked him why he never put up posters or menus.
He shrugged. “Because then I’d be lying. I don’t know what I’ll play tomorrow, or what I’ll serve. If I tell the truth, I don’t have to remember anything.”
At first it seemed like a joke, but the more I sat in that bar, the more I realized he lived entirely in line with that rule. He didn’t promise, he didn’t exaggerate, he didn’t sell. He simply told you what was real in that moment. If he had whisky, you got whisky. If he was out, he poured you beer. If he wasn’t in the mood for conversation, he said so.
That habit stuck with me more than any lecture. I began to see how every small lie I told — to others, to myself — created a crack I had to keep patching. When you tell the truth, even in the smallest ways, you don’t need to patch anything. The words match the world, and the world doesn’t fight back.
It’s not always easy. Sometimes the truth comes out awkward, or heavy, or risks losing something you’d prefer to keep. But once you get used to the discipline of aligning words with reality, you can’t go back. The bar in Nishi-Ogikubo closed years ago. Sakamoto must be older now, maybe retired, maybe gone. But every time I struggle to phrase something clearly, I hear him: “If I tell the truth, I don’t have to remember anything.”
The third habit is quieter, harder to explain. It’s the habit of taking responsibility for one thing each day. Not everything. Just one.
I began this in Ljubljana, during a summer when I was a student and living alone for the first time. My apartment was messy, the kind of mess that accumulates when you don’t notice small things — socks in corners, dishes stacked too long in the sink, notes scattered on the desk like autumn leaves. I felt paralyzed, like I could never catch up.
Then one evening, after a long day of lectures, I told myself: just wash the dishes. That’s all. And so I did. It took fifteen minutes. The next day, I threw out the garbage. The day after, I swept the floor. Slowly, almost without noticing, the room transformed. The mess shrank, the air felt lighter, and I realized something important: life feels impossible when you try to carry it whole. But if you pick up one piece each day, it becomes something you can manage.
I’ve carried that habit since. Even now, on days when nothing else seems within my reach, I look for one thing. Pay a bill. Answer a letter. Fix the handle of a drawer that’s been sticking. Each act is small, but the accumulation changes everything.
Making a bed in Basel. Listening to Sakamoto tell the truth in a bar in Nishi-Ogikubo. Washing dishes in Ljubljana. Three habits, three different lives.
The habits themselves aren’t extraordinary. Anyone could do them. But what they gave me was something larger than the actions themselves: a rhythm, a compass, a reminder that control, clarity, and responsibility don’t arrive as grand gestures. They come as small repetitions.
And maybe that’s the real lesson. Not to search for the perfect system or the grand routine, but to notice the modest things that align with you, and repeat them until they form the scaffolding of a life.
When I think back on those rooms — the damp bakery apartment in Basel, the smoky bar in Tokyo, the messy student flat in Ljubljana — I realize that what I really remember isn’t the walls or the furniture or the noise outside. It’s the habits. The small victories that shaped the air inside.
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