Are you a leader or a follower?
It was the kind of question we used to get in school, right before they handed out some color-coded personality test and told us who we were supposed to become. Red if you were bold. Blue if you were thoughtful. Yellow for the dreamers. Green if you followed the rules.
I never knew how to answer it. I still don’t.
I’ve followed people into places I didn’t belong, just to feel less alone. I’ve led people into situations I wasn’t ready for, just because I couldn’t bear to disappoint them. Some days I move like water, adjusting to every curve. Other days, I am the stone that refuses to shift.
And I’ve come to believe the question itself is flawed.
Most of us aren’t one or the other. We’re just trying to find our footing. Some seasons we lead. Some seasons we follow. Some seasons we just try to stay standing.
I was thinking about all this the day I found myself in the Mori Art Museum.
It had been one of those shapeless afternoons—too early for dinner, too late to go home. I wandered into Roppongi Hills with nothing in particular to do. The mall was pulsing with soft jazz and the gentle perfume of polished ambition. Shoppers moved like they had somewhere to be. I didn’t. So I kept walking.
Past cafés where the chairs were too elegant to sit in for long. Past boutiques filled with linen shirts folded with the kind of reverence usually reserved for scripture. Up escalators, through corridors, following signs not because I was curious, but because it was easier than deciding.
And then: the museum. Tucked into the sky like a secret only the quiet ones find.
Admission: 2,000 yen.
I hesitated. That was two meals. That was laundry money. That was more than I’d usually spend on something with no tangible return. But something inside nudged me. A quiet, unreasonable voice. Not logic. Not budget. Just… go.
So I went.
And what I found wasn’t just art. It was a recalibration.
Large-format canvases that seemed to breathe when you blinked. Sculptures suspended mid-air, defying gravity and reason. Video installations that washed over you like dreams you didn’t know you remembered. Rooms built to confuse your sense of time. Light bent in ways that made you question whether you’d ever actually seen it before.
One piece was made entirely of steel thread. Just lines and tension. But it hummed with presence. It had no meaning unless you stood still, unless you offered it your time. And I did. Not because I understood it. But because it asked nothing from me except stillness.
I thought about that question again.
Leader or follower?
But what if the better question is:
Can you be led by wonder? Can you follow beauty into places where logic says you don’t belong?
I remembered being younger, broke, anxious, always calculating. Always hungry—for certainty, for validation, for meaning. I remember passing galleries with my head down, pretending I wasn’t curious. Pretending I couldn’t care less. Because I thought beauty was something you earned. Something reserved for those who had already made it.
But there I was, high above Tokyo, standing face-to-face with art that asked nothing of me. No degree. No credentials. No invitation.
Just 2,000 yen and a willingness to be moved.
And in that moment, I realized: the doors aren’t always locked. Sometimes we just forget to knock. Or we tell ourselves it isn’t meant for us. Or we wait for someone to lead us inside.
But the truth is, we’re already allowed.
Even if we’re lost. Even if we don’t know what the piece means. Even if we feel small, or uncertain, or unworthy.
Especially then.
Because some things—some true, unforgettable things—aren’t waiting for leaders or followers.
They’re waiting for you to stop walking past. To stop saying maybe next time. To stop assuming that a masterpiece requires a map.
And sometimes, all it takes is 2,000 yen and the courage to be a little foolish. To stand still in front of something you don’t understand. To follow the part of you that doesn’t speak in logic.
And maybe that’s leadership too.
The kind that starts with admitting you don’t have the answers.
The kind that dares to follow awe.
The kind that leads you quietly back to yourself.
No spotlight. No applause. Just a long hallway, a silent room, a feeling you can’t quite name.
And a version of you—older, maybe—who finally steps in.